How do you build community?

Last week I posted some thoughts on building online community.
I didn’t get many posts here but it did spur some further discussion over on Flickr at the Church Marketing Lab.

Also last week my new blogging buddy Johnny Laird (thanks Thomas) posted some thoughts on the community group that meets at his house.

He discussed several ideas he’s looking at for future meetings at his house.

After a little questioning he shared some additional insight:

…other Groups meet at other times too – basically whenever it suits.

On top of that we have a monthly “Walking Fellowship” that meets on that same Home Group Sunday to walk together around some the rural areas outside of Croydon. This is an important group for us too.

The Sunday evening meetings are worked on a rota basis too, as follows (with some variations):

“First Sunday” A very trad Salvation Army Gospel Praise meeting, featuring music from the Band & Songsters, congregational singing, soloists & Bible teaching.

Small Groups – On the second Sunday of each month

“The Journey” A more intimate Sunday evening meeting with shared study, issue based topics for 21st Century life, often with musical interludes & guest speakers.

Youth Church/ Cafe Church – alternate months

I asked him a bit more about the Walking Fellowship. He responded:

The Walking Fellowship walk together in the countryside, and the individuals hang out & talk with other people from the Church who may not always get the chance to spend any good quality time with. Usually they will end up at someone’s house after about an hour to an hour an a half walking. They drink coffee, eat cake, share some Scripture & prayer.

There’s no particular prayer walking with this group, but we have others who do.

Today he added a bit more to his explanation.

…forgot to respond to Jonathan’s question about whether it was a typical SA initiative.

In response to that, no – it’s not especially typical.(but then again what is?) I guess the thing about The Salvation Army – in the UK and globally – is no longer a homogenous one-size-fits all denomination in terms of method, but rather it is a very diverse Church, where all kinds of different expressions of service & ministry sit along side each other.

Last month, Laurie and I saw a story on ABC News about a woman in Philadelphia that has built a community of runners in a group of homeless men. She loved running and noticed a number of homeless men just hanging out during her morning jog – so she built a community with them.

Anne Mahlum is a 27-year-old marathoner. And on her predawn runs in Philadelphia, she kept passing a group of homeless men.

“They would say, ‘Hi’ or they would say ‘Hi Anne’ or ‘There’s the crazy runner.’ ‘How many miles are you doing?'” Mahlum recalled. “And they would smile and sort of applaud and cheer for me, while I would start my day.”

But one day in May, Mahlum said, “I looked back, and I was like, ‘I am cheating these guys. Why am I just running past them and leaving them there?'”

“Running is so simple you know. You really only need a pair of shoes. You don’t need a lot of equipment. You need heart and dedication,” Mahlum said.

Anne thought to herself, “Maybe running could make these guys feel as good as it makes me feel.”

So she decided to start a running club for the homeless and started asking businesses for help.

All of this got me think about other ways we form community.

  • Online
  • Online gaming
  • Book Clubs
  • Work
  • Dinner Clubs
  • Sports Clubs
  • etc. etc.

Laurie and I love having our Dinner Club dinners. We took the idea from our friends Tim & Amber who hold monthly cuisine nights. A cuisine/theme is picked and everyone brings their favorite dishes. We were going to their dinner club but figured with the distance we might as well start our own. Everyone seems to have a great time when we do get together for the (somewhat) monthly meals. One of the things I have fun doing is trying to get people who might not normally get to spend time together to come to the dinners together. They may be friends of mine and Laurie’s but they may not know each other much at all. So it’s fun to see our friends mix it up.

We also have our encounter community group that meets every Tuesday night. I’ve loved watching our group grow not only in numbers but also in closeness with one another and with God. You can bet Tuesday nights are reserved for our community group.

But in addition to our 6 or 7 community groups at encounter there are other groups that meet throughout the week as well. On Wednesday mornings, there’s a group of 6-10 guys that meet at the local What-a-Burger for breakfast, Bible study and discussion before heading to work. There’s a new women’s Bible study that will begin soon. There’s also a group of guys that love motorcycles and get together on Sunday mornings before church to go ride and then meet to hang out at Chick-Fil-A on Thursday nights.

The key to all these groups I believe is a shared interest and the interest in sharing life with other folks around us.

I wonder what other ways we can build community in our churches and our neighborhoods. What are you doing?

Maybe before too long we’ll have an encounter walkers group, disk golf group and or joggers group or maybe we’ll take the time to build community outside our own church walls and have a neighborhood walker’s group, disk golf group or jogger’s group. Any takers?

Re: What to do with the homeless

Just an added verse reminder that I thought fit…

I can’t stand your religious meetings.
I’m fed up with your conferences and conventions.
I want nothing to do with your religion projects, your pretentious slogans and goals.
I’m sick of your fund-raising schemes, your public relations and image making.
I’ve had all I can take of your noisy ego-music.
When was the last time you sang to me?
Do you know what I want?
I want justice — oceans of it.
I want fairness — rivers of it.
That’s what I want. That’s all I want.
Amos 5:21-24 (The Message)

What to do with the homeless?

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Anyone can tell you that the homeless population in America continues to grow. According to the National Law Center on Homelessness and Poverty there are currently 3.5 million homeless people in America right now. That includes between 4,000 and 14,000 in Dallas. Twenty to 30 percent of the homeless in America have jobs yet can’t scrape together enough to pay for a place to live. I’ve read that nearly 1/3 of the homeless have slight to severe mental issues. Another 1/3 have chemical dependencies of some sort. The remaining simply fall on hard times and can’t catch a break long enough to get them off the streets. A missed paycheck, a health crisis, or an unpaid bill pushes poor families over the edge into homelessness.

So what is the answer to America’s (and the world’s) homeless population? Is there one? Jesus said that we will always have the poor with us. But does that mean homelessness and extreme poverty as well? Is there an answer to the problem?

I just finished reading “Under the Overpass: A journey of Faith on the Streets of America” by Mike Yankoski.
Yankoski and his friend Sam spent five months on the streets of Denver, Washington DC, Portland, San Fransisco, Phoenix and San Diego. They experienced being shunned by people everywhere, including people who were very open about their Christian faith — even while sitting in churches.

An ongoing struggle to find safety, a place to sleep, a bathroom and food becomes dehumanizing for anyone. One experience at a time, a person’s sense of dignity and sense of self-worth gets stripped away. I don’t know what the experience would be like for someone who has lived on the streets for thirty years.

But I do know this: blithely allowing this terrible stripping to occur is a blot on the conscience of America and especially on the conscience of the church. If we as believers choose to forget that everyone — even the shrunken soul lying in the doorway — is made in the image of God, can we say that we know our Creator? If we respond to others based on their outward appearance, haven’t we entirely missed the point of the Gospel? (emphasis added)

Reading the book and ministering to the folks at Austin Street inspired me. The book made me rethink how I’ve treated everyone I see standing alongside the road looking destitute and looking for a handout.

Every evening I drive to Laurie’s there is someone standing at the corner of Ferguson and I-30 asking for help. I have to ask myself, am I doing right by giving this man or woman a handout? I feel guilty if I don’t, yet at the time it’s very easy to look away and pretend I’m busy on the phone or pretend I’m changing the radio station until the light changes green. Yet I don’t really know that person’s situation. I haven’t taken the time to get out of my truck and share the love of Christ with them.

Even if I do toss a few coins or dollars their way is that really sharing Christ with them? Would a tract be more “Christian-like?”

I tend to believe that if a person asks for money, as a Christian I should be willing to help. After all Christ says, “To you who are ready for the truth, I say this: Love your enemies. Let them bring out the best in you, not the worst. When someone gives you a hard time, respond with the energies of prayer for that person. If someone slaps you in the face, stand there and take it. If someone grabs your shirt, giftwrap your best coat and make a present of it. If someone takes unfair advantage of you, use the occasion to practice the servant life. No more tit-for-tat stuff. Live generously.”

If Christ says that about our enemies, how much better should we respond to our neighbors and the stranger on the street?

Christ also tells the rich young ruler, “If you want to be perfect, go, sell your possessions and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.”

But then I have to consider, am I not also to be a good steward of my money?

I’ve felt guilty the last week or so because I have three or four piles of clothes sitting in my hallway that need to go to the Austin Street Shelter. Because of other “priorities” I have not been in three weeks.

There are clothes sitting there that can be used to keep someone warm that might not get into the shelter at night, or even as they’re out and about during the day.

Tonight on my way home, as a winter storm finally began to make it’s presence felt in Dallas, I decided to meet my dad at Fuel City, at the intersection of Industrial and I-35.

It’s a nice bright convenience store with the best tacos in the state (according to Texas Monthly).

Dad had worked all evening looking for icy roads in Dallas to sand. I decided I’d meet him after his shift to share a few tacos and a few minutes of conversation.

I know the Fuel City area fairly well. Austin Street is less than two miles away. I stop their frequently and I’m never surprised when someone asks me for spare change so they can catch a bus, get some cough medicine, buy a taco or what not.

Tonight was no different.

As I sat in my truck I saw a man and a woman trying to keep warm near the entrance to the gas station.

I felt guilty watching them shiver as I sat in my truck running the heater.

I watched them as they asked other customers for change. The woman seemed to have somewhat sporadic behavior and I began to wonder which 1/3 of the homeless population she fit into.

An Hispanic lady stopped at the taco stand and purchased several tacos for herself and for the woman begging outside.

I watched as the woman took the taco(s) and then just sat them aside as she went asking for more money.

“She’s looking for a fix” I thought to myself. Just hoping to get a drink or a drug fix later tonight.

Judging her I focused on the man. He was much more calm, less aggressive in asking.

Finally my dad called and said he should arrive in 10-15 minutes.

I got out of my truck and approached the window of the taco stand. The man spotted me right away. Like a tractor beam he approached and asked for money.

“Couldn’t get into a shelter tonight?” I asked.

“No, the shelter costs $7,” he replied.

“They charge you for a bed on a night like this?”

“Sure. Can I have some money?”

“How bout I buy you a taco or two instead?” I asked him.

“Yeah. Chicken – no onions,” he told the lady at the window.

I pulled out my money and paid $5 for four tacos. I had $1 remaining and he eyed it right away.

I started to put the money back into my pocket and he asked me for it.

I told him I had a pocket full of change I could give him and I did.

He was grateful and then became somewhat frantic when several coins fell to the concrete sidewalk.

He gathered them up again and then asked for my last dollar.

“Come on. Give me the dollar so I can get into the shelter.”

“You really think you’ll be able to get a bed this late at night?” I asked. He didn’t respond.

“You know if you go over to Austin Street they don’t charge you for a bed.” I was hoping I was right but knew at this late hour the shelter would be packed to the max.

“Come on just give me the dollar.”

Something inside of me said, “Go ahead. Help him out.”

So I did. Moments later the tacos were ready. I handed him his two tacos and told him he should go to Austin Street next time and to stay warm.

He shook my hand and said thanks.

I walked back to my truck and watched him.

He went back to the window and complained that he said “No onions.”

I don’t believe they fixed his order but he turned around and began eating them as he asked another customer for money.

He finished his tacos and threw the container away.

I hoped I had done the right thing by giving him my last bit of cash.

A few minutes later an announcement was made that the store would stop selling beer shortly. Five minutes till midnight, sounds right.

The woman then approached the man and they talked briefly before walking away from the store.

As I watched them they climbed into a car parked on the property and drove off several minutes later.

“Wow. I guess I’ve been had,” I thought. “Oh well. Lord please let my gift be a blessing to them somehow.”

Events like this have made so many in our country and our church skeptics of the homeless. They’ve turned what may have been at one time a very generous heart, into a cold, unthinkable, more than willing to pass you by attitude.

But in all reality — they have a car. So what? Does that mean they also have a place to stay warm on a cold night? I’ve slept in my truck before when it’s freezing outside. It helps, but it’s not a huge help.

So what should we as Christians do?

Do we ignore the whole fruit basket because of one or two rotten apples? Or do we give generously and hope that it rubs off on someone?

I feel like I’ve had this discussion numerous times in the last six months. Whether it’s homelessness, illegal immigration, Abu Gray, Guantánamo Bay or anywhere else, people have their defense mechanisms turned on.

Seth Woods writes, “We snicker at the lost and thank God that I’m saved.”

We all have our reasons for not reaching out. I have plenty myself.

But I have to consider, who did Christ love? Who did Christ give forgiveness to when none was deserved? I know I’m one of those who have received His grace, His forgiveness and His mercy when none was deserved.

Christ came to save the world not condemn it. Christ came for the very sinner who may have lied about what he was going to do with my $1 bill. Christ came for the illegal immigrant hoping to make a better life for himself or his family. Christ came for the terrorist spending his time in prison. Christ came for Saddam Hussein, Osama Bin Laden and George W. Bush.

Christ came to love and share love and I believe he’s called us to do the same.

I still don’t have the answers as to how this plays out in our day-to-day life. I don’t know how this gives an answer to the homeless issues our country faces. I don’t even know what this means for prisoners in Guantánamo Bay — but I know that I as a follow of Christ are called to love them.

The last time we saw Henry was the day before we left San Fransisco for Phoenix as he was stumbling through the center of the park, talking frantically to himself, shaking his fists widely at the sky. All I could think about was the fact that Jesus spent time with people just like Henry. Jesus came to them, healed them, cast the demons out of them — gave them life and peace.

But here’s the thing: Jesus expects us to reach out to Henrys too — and He draws the expectation in the clearest of terms. How we treat people in this life will determine whether we hear “whatever you did for one of the least of these… you did for me” (Matthew 25:40) or “whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me” Matthew 25:45).

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter whether Henry or the man who thinks he’s Jesus are clinically diagnosed as mentally ill or spiritually described as demon possessed. Neither label gets us off the hook of what we are called to do and be in their lives.

We are called to love, regardless of what the other individual has done. Two final quotes tonight before I end tonight and wrap myself in my warm, cozy bed.

God is in the slums, in the cardboard boxes where the poor play house. God is in the silence of a mother who has infected her child with a virus that will end both their lives. God is in the cries heard under the rubble of war. God is in the debris of wasted opportunity and lives, and God is with us if we are with them. – Bono

I want to be like my Jesus — but I’m not sure what that means. To be like You Jesus, cause You said to live like you and love like You — and then You died for me. – Jeremy Camp

UPDATE: For a real personal look into the homeless issue, be sure and visit my friend Mark Horvath at InvisiblePeople.tv. Watch his videos. Be touched. May we all learn to see the invisible people we walk by each day.

Proposed “intake center” for homeless looks scary

Marni passed along an article regarding the homeless in Dallas and a proposed intake center for the city. It also focuses a lot on Austin Street where we go “almost every week.” The article is from the Dallas Observer, March 2004.

We need to back down and take a deep breath about this, all of us. I believe the mayor’s motives are good, but she has also shown remarkable
insensitivity. I don’t think the real estate guys are even required to have
good motives.
You and I are required. This is a legitimately tough issue. But rendering
human beings nameless and faceless, treating them all as round pegs to be
shoved into identical round holes, loading them on buses and putting them in
camps: You and I don’t want to have any part of that.

It’s a great insight into some of the issues involved.