Thomas’ wife Olly is back blogging again and she reflects on hearing Rob Bell over the weekend. (I don’t think she has permalinks turned on so the link doesn’t appear to be working but it’s one of her latest posts).
Rob spoke about how wonderful it would be if the world tried to find a third way of dealing with situations such as these. Jesus was the best at finding third ways. Diffusing situations where people where desperately trying to irritate Him…where people were trying to accuse Him of breaking some sort of law…. God’s law!….where people tried to bring Jesus down…..He found a third way…He found a way of diffusing it all without allowing people to humiliate Him or drag Him down or worst of all allow people to say that He wasn’t who He claimed to be…The Son of God…the Messiah! Yet He did it with such class! He didn’t just walk away from the situation and just give up, but yet neither did He retaliate in the same manner as what was done to Him…..He found a third way, and in doing so, didn’t lose face. He put his point across with such great authority and with such clarity that the disgruntled people were left at times speechless and with the ball well and truly being out of their court.
I really feel that for most people, finding a third way in which to react to a situation, especially one that comes unexpected and fast, is incredibly hard! We usually react quickly in one out of the two ways…and I desperately need to find a way of letting this third way of reacting come naturally to me. When I look back over my life and even at this very moment in my life I feel that I allow or have allowed people to put me down which is really in essence trying to humiliate me. It may be that they are unaware of what they are doing, yet it hurts. How do I deal with it. Well in my past I have usually “sucked it up” and as I don’t like confrontation and animosity particularly much, I usually just smile and pretend I don’t mind, and then go home upset about it…knowing full well that if I allowed myself to respond in the other way it would only be to my own shame the next day when I remember back to how I let it rip!
Good stuff – drop by and give Olly a visit and enjoy the rest of her thoughts on Bell.
