{"id":3009,"date":"2013-07-06T22:25:38","date_gmt":"2013-07-07T03:25:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/casadeblundell.com\/laurie\/?p=3009"},"modified":"2013-07-18T22:29:27","modified_gmt":"2013-07-19T03:29:27","slug":"a-letter-to-my-unborn-daughter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/casadeblundell.com\/laurie\/life\/a-letter-to-my-unborn-daughter\/","title":{"rendered":"A letter to my unborn daughter"},"content":{"rendered":"

When I was pregnant with the boys I wrote a letter to them that one day I’ll show them. You can read that letter here.<\/a> \u00c2\u00a0 Well I thought I should do the same for little miss.\u00c2\u00a0 It was interesting writing this letter because this time I am writing it as a parent already.\u00c2\u00a0 When I wrote the boys’ letter, I had no clue what being a parent would be like or feel like.\u00c2\u00a0 So with this one, I had a whole new perspective.<\/p>\n

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To my sweet girl, Harper:<\/p>\n

You are a dream come true, already.\u00c2\u00a0 Your dad and I thought we were unable to have our own children, but after a couple years of praying and trusting in God we were blessed with your amazing big brothers, Hayden and Ian.\u00c2\u00a0 Then a few years later, we were in awe to find out God wasn’t done with our family just yet, because He blessed us with you.<\/p>\n

Its hard to believe I am going to have 3 children, and as much excitement as that brings, it also brings a lot of fear.\u00c2\u00a0 I know I have enough love for each of you, I always will! But trying to figure out how to spend time with each of you individually to show you just how much I love you is what I fear.\u00c2\u00a0 Your brothers each have a unique relationship with me and your dad and we show them we love them differently, in ways that work for them.\u00c2\u00a0 I know we will have a unique and different relationship with you as well, and I look forward to seeing that relationship grow.<\/p>\n

It is my job to prepare you for life, just as your grandparents prepared your dad and me (and I think they did an Awesome job!). You were gifted to us by God to show you the way. I will not always be your favorite person and sometimes you may not even like me, and that’s ok.\u00c2\u00a0 There will be times that I am angry with you. Be angry, but be honest with yourself and know that even when I am angry with you \u00e2\u20ac\u201c I still love you. The love I have for you can never be broken or taken away from you. It is a constant you can always count on.\u00c2\u00a0 I am your friend and biggest fan…but, first and foremost, I am your mother. I will not be a yes-woman that always agrees with you just so you like me. When I say no to a request, I am doing it because I love you. I am not ruining your life. You will survive missing a few parties or whatever the case may be.<\/p>\n

I hope you learn how to be your own person. \u00c2\u00a0See yourself through your own eyes. Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t let other people\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s notions of who you should be change your view of yourself. You can do anything you put your mind to; ANYTHNG.\u00c2\u00a0 Which leads me to the next thing – there is no single person who can be your everything. Be very careful about bestowing this power on any one person.\u00c2\u00a0 Trying to fill an emptiness or ache with other people (or with anything else, like food, alcohol, drugs, boys or a zillion other things) is a lost cause, and nobody will be up to the task.\u00c2\u00a0 You will feel let down, and worse, that loneliness will still be there no matter what.\u00c2\u00a0 Let Christ fill that void, He is the only one up to the task!<\/p>\n

You are beautiful. I may be biased because you are a part of me, but my love, you are. Beauty is subjective. Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t let superficial standards of this world affect how you feel about yourself. You were made to stand out, not fit in….you don’t want to be like everyone else anyway.\u00c2\u00a0 You are uniquely you and we love it! Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t get so caught up in things like vanity and materialism that you forget who you are, your values, your morals; how you treat people is infinitely more important. Enjoy nice things when you have them and don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t get depressed when you don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t. Your value lies outside of things.<\/p>\n

Be kind. Be respectful. Show grace.<\/p>\n

Love always wins, and Daddy and I will always love you.\u00c2\u00a0This world will give you hurt and pain, struggle and triumph, but, in the end, you will see love always wins. When you are having a fight with a friend, a struggle with a boy, or when you fall down as a toddler or even as an adult, always remember, Love will win and pick you up.<\/p>\n

Talk to God.\u00c2\u00a0 Trust God.\u00c2\u00a0 Lean on God.\u00c2\u00a0 The world is a scary place but God will protect you, always, even in your darkest hour. God’s timing is always right; never doubt that.<\/p>\n

Do what you love for work. You will be born with wonderful talents, individual to you and your needs and desires. Follow whatever path those talents take you on and chase them. There is a certain passion and purpose you are given when you work in a capacity that allows you to utilize the gifts that God gave you.\u00c2\u00a0 Don’t be afraid to share your passions, they are what make you, you.<\/p>\n

Love. Romantic love. This could be a whole book.\u00c2\u00a0 No one completes you. You are enough. You want someone to compliment you, not complete you!\u00c2\u00a0 Love does not hurt. If it doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t feel right, it isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t. If they put you down, they aren\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t for you. Heartbreak is not the end of the world. It is a break up, not a breakdown. You will survive a broken heart.\u00c2\u00a0 Find the one you can’t live without.\u00c2\u00a0 The one who makes you want to be a better person.\u00c2\u00a0 The one who builds you up instead of tears you down.\u00c2\u00a0 Live life before you get married, find out who you are and what you want out of life.\u00c2\u00a0 Take all the time you need to find your “one”…and I can almost guarantee you, you won’t find him in high school!<\/p>\n

As the saying goes, knowledge is power.\u00c2\u00a0 It truly is, you won’t get very far in life without it.\u00c2\u00a0 Take advantage of every opportunity you can to gain more knowledge and education.\u00c2\u00a0 Never stop learning.\u00c2\u00a0 Don’t become idle, learn something new everyday.\u00c2\u00a0 Find a passion and learn everything you can about it.<\/p>\n

Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t just be nice to your brothers. Be their best friend, their biggest supporter and their most constructive critic. You will be grateful they are your brothers in time, and you will all three need each other one day. (You need each other now, too!)<\/p>\n

I know I’m not perfect and I will make mistakes, but I promise you, I will try my hardest to be the best mother I can be to you and your brothers.\u00c2\u00a0 I may not always show it, but everyday I will love you with every fiber of my being.\u00c2\u00a0 No matter what.<\/p>\n

I can honestly say that I am living a fairy tale, my happily ever after.\u00c2\u00a0 I married my prince charming, started a little family with two amazing sons and now a beautiful daughter.\u00c2\u00a0 So with the addition of you my love, my fairy tale is that much sweeter!<\/p>\n

Love you always,<\/p>\n

Mom<\/p>\n

P.S. Don’t grow up too fast! I told this to your brothers too, but apparently they didn’t listen because the last (almost) 3 years have flown by!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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