{"id":4830,"date":"2009-10-29T07:00:15","date_gmt":"2009-10-29T12:00:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.casadeblundell.com\/jonathan\/?p=4830"},"modified":"2009-10-29T09:49:02","modified_gmt":"2009-10-29T14:49:02","slug":"top-12-communication-pet-peeves","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/casadeblundell.com\/jonathan\/top-12-communication-pet-peeves\/","title":{"rendered":"Top 12 communication pet-peeves"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I do my best to offer grace and understanding to folks — no matter where they are, what they’re doing or how they’re doing it.<\/p>\n

But sometimes when it comes to communicating, certain things get under my skin. I’m not sure why, they just do. So I thought I’d offer a little insight into my world with a list of my Top 12 communication pet-peeves.<\/p>\n

(I know some of these might feel like I’m picking on you<\/em>. I’m not. Trust me, there are more than one person that does each of these — and several folks do multiples of these. Consider this a confession on my behalf more than anything else. Perhaps this list will give you a little more understanding into my world — and then you can offer some insight into your world as well.)
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  1. People who call, don’t leave a voice-mail and then complain that you didn’t call them back.<\/strong> I know I have caller ID on my phone, but if you don’t leave a message that asks me to call you back, chances are — I won’t.<\/li>\n
  2. People who don’t listen to voice mail.<\/strong> I leave voice mail many times so that you don’t have to call me back. Sometimes its just to let you know something, or I just wanted to say hi. I might also leave a detailed message that I don’t want to have to repeat all over again when you call me back. I don’t mind people calling me back, but it makes things a lot nicer when they’ve listened to your voice mail first.<\/li>\n
  3. People who switch communication mediums – mid-conversation.<\/strong> I know some folks who like to respond to e-mails via chat, rather than e-mail. While I get that to some extent, they usually pick up mid-conversation and think I know exactly what I’m talking about. They’ve just read my e-mail and that’s what’s on their mind, but as soon as I hit send, I move on to other things until I see a reply in my e-mail. Also, I have some friends that will tell you something in Facebook, you’ll reply in Facebook, and then they’ll send their reply in e-mail, or chat, or Twitter. It makes it difficult to go back and track the progress of the conversation.<\/li>\n
  4. E-mail forwards.<\/strong> — especially political ones and\/or those that have already been disproved on Snopes.com<\/a><\/li>\n
  5. Starting new e-mail threads, outside of the original one.<\/strong> This may not happen to you much, but in our office, an e-mail gets sent to a group of say 10 people. Three people hit “reply-to-all” and send their reply to everyone. Then someone else decides to only reply to one or two people and rather than replying to the original e-mail, they start an entirely new email (without copying the original e-mail into it), with an entirely new subject line. Then along the way other people in the group will get added to this new e-mail thread and eventually you have 4 or 5 different e-mail threads you have to search through to find what you’re looking for.<\/li>\n
  6. Over using “reply-to-all.”<\/strong> In a similar scenario, someone may send an e-mail to a group thanking them for a job well done. Then many people in the group hit “reply-to-all” saying thanks, you’re welcome, etc. etc. sending those e-mails to everyone in the group, rather than just the original sender of the e-mail. While it may not be intended, it often comes across to me as trying to be as public as you can in your kissing up to someone.<\/li>\n
  7. People who don’t follow me on Twitter sending me a direct message.<\/strong> For those of you who don’t know, there’s a “private” way to send messages on Twitter — it’s called a direct message. But you can only send direct messages to folks who are actually following you. And unlike Facebook, you’re not required to mutually follow people. I can follow 5,000 people if I want and not one of them is required to follow me. I understand using direct messages on Twitter. I use them all the time. It’s great for “private” messages you don’t want to broadcast to everyone else. But if you’re going to send me a direct message, in order to keep the conversation “private” at least have the decency to follow me for the time being so I don’t have to “broadcast” my side of the conversation as public replies. What this comes across as to me, is that while I’m taking the time to follow you, I’m obviously not good enough for you to follow me and<\/em> I’m not even worthy enough to be mentioned publicly by you. You have to hide the fact that we’re having a conversation.<\/li>\n
  8. People who use Facebook as their only way to contact me, when they have my e-mail address, phone number and more (and if they don’t have it – it’s all posted on my Facebook profile).<\/strong> I’m don’t mind using Facebook, but it can be a bit annoying at times when you have to login to Facebook to get a message that could have easily been e-mailed instead. I guess I just don’t spend as much time on Facebook as others. I prefer e-mails simply because I can receive them and respond to them quickly and easily on my phone without logging into another site.<\/li>\n
  9. Extra long e-mails.<\/strong> This one annoys me not because I hate reading long personal e-mails, but I always feel like I have to write a full response to them. And usually when I get these long e-mails, I may have time to read them all, but not fully respond and thus I simply let them sit in my inbox and before long they’re buried and I’ve forgotten all about them (and my need to reply).<\/li>\n
  10. People who do nothing but whine and complain.<\/strong> There’s something about social media and Web 2.0 that makes complaining easy and tolerable by the masses. Suddenly you have an audience who is (somewhat) willing to listen to your ranting, venting and whining. But for those who do it constantly, whether its about politics, religion, how bad their life sucks, etc. etc. — uggh — it’s such a power drain.<\/li>\n
  11. Spam.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    So there you have it, my Top 12 communication pet-peeves (in no particular order). <\/p>\n

    Oh wait, there’s only 11 you say? Well that’s because it’s your turn! Tell me what you would put in the number 12 spot. <\/p>\n

    What did I leave out on my list? Share it in the comments below. <\/p>\n

    What things do I do while trying to communicate that drive you bonkers?<\/p>\n

    Or maybe I’m way out of line with this list. Feel free to let me know that as well.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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